How Do I Form Good Habits?

Hey guys, 2020 has been an excellent year for me. Before you think I went nuts let me explain, So this year I have plenty of time to learn new things and get some new habits. In short, I got lots of time to experiment with different things. So today I’ll share my experience till now about habit. I’ll explain my way to successfully form any habit.

What gets measured gets managed ~ Peter Drucker

If you want to be successful remember this quote by Peter Drucker. If you want to successfully form a habit you have to measure. which means you need to track your habits. So that you know when you missed and why? I think this habit tracker template by Thomas Frank is great to start with. Here is a video of him explaining best way to track your habits.

 

This is a 15-day cycle and on the left side write why did you missed a day and how this cycle has been. Remember templates are all about experimenting I try something new every month. So keep trying new things and find what works for you.

Why do we do what we do?

There’s this thing called Pain and Pleasure Principle. If you have read my last article, You know what Pain and Pleasure Principle is? But if you don’t know let me explain. The principle says,

The reason behind us doing anything is either to gain pleasure or avoid pain. We form habits for the same reason.

So to start define your pains and pleasures and you need to visualize them when you don’t feel like doing the work. In simple words, pain means the disadvantages of not doing that and vice versa. So for example, let’s say you wanna start reading books, your pain would be like failing in life and pleasure would getting success, etc. If you don’t feel like reading just think about your pain and pleasure it will give you a boost in motivation.

What’s Your End Goal

If you want to form a habit and stick with it you need to know your why? Why do you want to form the habit? In my case it was weird. Because when I started reading I noticed there’re three habits (Reading, Workout & Meditation) almost everyone in the self-help space talks about so I was like I need to form these. But this weird why worked for me, maybe because I was thinking of compound effect. I was thinking that it will somehow help me in the future and I was right.

Obstacles

Let’s talk about the common problems that you might face during the process. From my experience, there are two main problems which are,

  • Getting the motivation for starting
  • Keeping the habit up.

So to tackle these problems I’ll talk about two of my favorite techniques which work for me and I hope it’ll for you as well.

The 5 Second Rule

If you don’t feel like starting you can use The 5 Second Rule. It was developed by Mel Robbins. She talks about this technique in her book “The 5 Second Rule”. Definitely check this book out. I won’t go in deep snow. Let’s use the reading habit example if you feel any resistance, just do a count down 5, 4, 3, 2, 1, and start at any cost without thinking about anything. Once you start you won’t feel like stopping fast.

The 2 Days Rule

So the biggest problem people have while forming a habit is that they aren’t able to be consistent with it. Most of the time one-day breaks turn into two days and then a week then we totally stop. So to tackle this problem I use a technique called “The 2 Days Rule”. According to this rule, you can take two days to break from a habit anytime you want but after that two days no matter what, you need to do it. Now I just gave you a simple overview of The 2-day rule. If you want to know more check this video by Matt D’avlla. He explains it great.

So this is it for today, Don’t forget to give me some feedback and suggestions. I catch you guys up on the next one. Till then stay safe. Peace.

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