Hey guys, I am finally writing part two of how to win people. I’ve been procrastinating with this for a while now. If you haven’t checked part one don’t worry I’ll leave a link to that. Check that out after finishing this one. So let’s get started.
1. Let the other person feel the idea is his or her
People always love their ideas no matter if it’s good or bad. So if you want to make someone agree with you make them feel it was their idea to agree.
For example, if you want to sell something to someone make them feel the product. So if they like your product they’ll buy it thinking that it was their idea to buy.
2. Try honestly to see things from the other person’s point of view.
Other people may often be wrong, but we cannot condemn them. We must try to understand them. Try to put yourself in their shoes and find the reason behind their actions.
3. Be sympathetic with the other person’s ideas and desires.
A magic phrase to stop arguments, eliminate ill feelings, create goodwill, and make the other person listen attentively: “I don’t blame you for feeling as you do. If I were you I would undoubtedly feel just as you do.”
Using this phrase you’re saying that you’re sympathetic with them and you’re like them.
4.Appeal to the nobler motives.
Everyone likes to be glorious in their own eyes. People believe that they do things for noble and morally upright reasons. If we can appeal to other’s noble motives we can successfully convince them to follow our ideas.
5. Dramatize your ideas.
This one is more effective nowadays because of so much we consume every day. To get the attention you need to dramatize your ideas.
TV programs and movies are doing it every day to get our attention.
6. Throwdown a challenge.
When you throw a challenge you’re challenging people’s ability to do anything. Charles Schwab says, “The way to get things done is to stimulate competition”.
In ancient Greece, the motto of the King’s Guard was “All men have fears, but the brave put down their fears and go forward, sometimes to death, but always to victory”. Clearly King’s Guards are being challenged to overcome their fears otherwise they’ll be considered as cowards.
Don’t use this one every time. When nothing else works try this.
So this is a wrap on this one. Again I shared these from one of my favorite books “How to Win Friends and Influence People” by Dale Carnegie. This book is a must-read for everyone. I’ll catch you guys up on the next one. Till then stay safe. Peace.
Check out part one here